My Breast Cancer Journey

My journey with breast cancer began long before my own diagnosis. I was just 19 when my mother was diagnosed, and from that moment on, I made a promise to always advocate for breast cancer patients and survivors.

But nothing could have prepared me for what came next — hearing those life-altering words myself: “You have cancer.” I was 34 years old, a mom to a five-year-old, and suddenly facing a storm of uncertainty and fear. Questions raced through my mind:
How bad could this get? What would my son do without me? Was this the end of my chance to have more children?

Time stood still.

While processing the diagnosis, we consulted a fertility specialist to explore preserving my ability to have children. Despite the urgency and importance of this decision, my insurance wouldn’t cover the fertility treatment, claiming it wasn’t “medically necessary.” I was devastated — how could someone else decide what was necessary for my future?

We moved forward anyway. After one round, we retrieved and tested three eggs. Only one was viable and able to be frozen. The emotional and financial burden was overwhelming. Fortunately, I received help with medication costs through Walgreens’ Heartbeat Program, which provides support only before treatment begins. Even so, I knew others in my position might not be as fortunate.

I underwent a double mastectomy in August 2019, followed by radiation through December. There were additional surgeries along the way — both before and after. A year later, we transferred the frozen embryo, but it was unsuccessful. In 2022, after two more IVF rounds, we decided to try one final time.

In June of 2022, we transferred two embryos — and in February 2023, we welcomed our two miracle babies into the world.

My journey through cancer and fertility has been long, painful, and filled with both heartbreak and joy. But I share it to let others know: you are not alone. No one should have to face these impossible decisions without support or guidance. I am beyond grateful to be here, to have my children, and to continue fighting — not just for myself, but for every person walking a similar path.